Signs this rare twin flame connection is about to get lit
If you don’t know much about twin flames, you’re probably wondering two things: what are they, and who’s yours? Let’s start with the what, and then we can get to the who, shall we?
What is a twin flame?
A twin flame is a very intense soul bond. It’s basically your other half. But let’s be real – no one else can complete you. So, meeting your twin flame doesn’t make you whole, it reminds you of the work you need to do to feel whole on your own.
The connection is always instant and deep. Looking into their eyes may feel so familiar, probably because it’s like looking into your own. This sense of unconditional love and truly being seen can be intoxicating until we start to sober up and realize that this person has a lot more to show us.
Waking up next to your twin flame can be like seeing the dark circles under your eyes without needing to look in the mirror in the morning. So romantic, right? They reflect back to you the ugly parts you haven’t quite accepted within yourself partly because they have similar wounds, fears, and insecurities.
In fact, it’s not uncommon for twin flames to share parallel childhood family dynamics. Maybe you both struggle with an abandonment wound, or perhaps each of you have parents who divorced when you were young – this is why meeting your twin flame can feel like home. But once the relationship really gets rolling, though, you can’t ignore the monsters under the bed anymore.
What is the purpose of a twin flame?
What’s the point of all this, you ask? The answer is simple: soul evolution. Twin flames are attracted to one another to experience accelerated spiritual growth. They come together to be reminded of their true nature, which means loving the dark spots as much as the light.
We’re all good at hiding the less attractive parts of who we are from others (and even from ourselves). Yet with a twin flame, that’s not really possible. You’re forced to do the work, but the work is less about improving the relationship between you and them and more about improving your relationship with yourself.
The more we can accept, heal, and integrate our shadows, the more we can find wholeness. No one can do this for us. Your twin flame is not responsible for your demons, but that doesn’t mean you won’t take it out on them for bringing those demons to your attention.
That’s the confusing part – you’re simultaneously attracted to and repulsed by them. Thus, twin flames can come in and out of each other’s lives until the necessary growth or healing has occurred. Remember, though: no supposed twin flame connection is just cause for staying in a relationship that’s toxic. If someone doesn’t treat you right, they’re probably not your twin flame.
Twin flame vs. soulmate
No, a twin flame is not the same thing as a soulmate. While the two terms are often confused with one another, there are some crucial differences between them!
A soulmate is someone from your “soul family.” Like a twin flame, there’s a deep familiarity when you meet them, but what makes this relationship distinct is that these bonds are typically quite harmonious. Both parties support the other in becoming their true self with grace and ease.
A twin flame, on the other hand, inspires your truth in a much more tumultuous way. When you look in the mirror, you probably don’t always love what you see. The reflection of a twin flame challenges you to accept all of yourself, even the dark side. That’s why they’re also called “mirror souls.”
Twin flames can actually become soulmates, but it takes a whole lot of patience and humility. If each person is able to take responsibility for their baggage, face their demons, and come out on the other side with the relationship still intact … then, well, anything is possible.
Origin of twin flames
There are various spiritual traditions and ancient myths that tell the story of human souls being split in half, setting the foundation for the twin flame theory. Plato’s Symposium from the fifth century BC is one of them.
The myth tells the story of how humans used to have two bodies in one — two faces, two sets of genitals, four arms, and four legs. Some were male/female, some male/male, and others female/female. These beings were extremely powerful and tried to overtake the gods, so Zeus decided to cut them all in half. Ever since then, souls wander the Earth yearning for their twin.